What are the qualification for a woman to be on your "Top Ten"?
*Ladies feel free to participate*
-Sincerely
......a curious poet
Sunday, April 19, 2009
Top 10
So in an effort to understand mankind. I ask you the reader to tell me what would constitute a woman to be "Top Ten" material, (1) Is it beauty in the face? (2) is it a banging body? (3) does mind come into play? (4) does heart come into play?....For the record i don't support objectifying women to list but i do like to understand the cognition behind these things. So i ask:
Thursday, April 16, 2009
My 10 Lessons of Lent 2009 edition!!
As some of you may or may not have known, i gave up my cell phone for lent. For those of you who do not know what lent is, here is wikipedia's definition of Lent:
The traditional purpose of Lent is the preparation of the believer — through prayer, penitence, almsgiving and self-denial — for the annual commemoration during Holy Week of the Death and Resurrection of Jesus, which recalls the events linked to the Passion of Christ and culminates in Easter, the celebration of the Resurrection of Jesus Christ.
Conventionally it is described as being forty days long, though different denominations calculate the forty days differently. The forty days represent the time that, according to the Bible, Jesus spent in the wilderness.
Well, at the end of everything, i believe there should be a lesson learned, and in my case, there where 10 lessons i learned. I am choosing to share this with everyone b/c i have truly been affected by this time of self-denial and i figured why not. lol.
1. Cherish each moment: Every second is a chance to change and every moment is one lost or gained. So make the most of every moment!!! No matter the circumstances.
2. Stop running to the next thing in fear that you will miss something: The thing about having a phone/texting is that you are always planning for the next event. So much so, that you are nearly running from one event to the next. How can you possibly enjoy one thing when you are so ready to get to the next thing? Take your time and refer to number 1.
3. Plan ahead: Your mother told you a million times but I’m going to tell you once more. If you have never planned ahead, wait until the day your phone dies and you wished you had. Instead of saying “im going to just call you”, and then you end up wasting time lingering around until you get/make the call that determines your next move, just say “We will meet here at 7:30pm, and if plans change, then call me”. Always think two steps ahead. It will save you heart ache.
4. Be resourceful and never give up: In this past 40 days I have been lost more times than I would like to think necessary. But because I new I had no other choice then to figure it out, I simply did. So when things go wrong as they often will, rest if you must but don’t you quit.
5. Enjoy yourself: In the words of Katt Williams, you need to get in tuned with your star player. Spend at least an hour or two alone everyday. What you do with that hour is up to you, but make sure it involves reflection. Think about what you did that day, who you spoke to, who you affected, what experiences you had, where you went wrong, what could you have done better, and what were your accomplishments? These are important questions to ask your star player everyday! If you don’t know you, then no one else can ever know you.
6. Let people in your life know they matter: No matter what occurs in life, nothing is certain but death and taxes. So be sure the people in your life know they matter and that you love them. You never know the next time you will see them, and you never know how your words/actions will affect them. P.S. show affection whenever it strikes you, I know I am not a naturally affectionate person, but if you need a hug or feel like giving one, do so, because actions will always speak volumes over any words.
7. NOTHING MATTERS: Its easy to be bitter, and just discount people for a variety of things. But it is much easier to not carry that load on your heart and just LET IT GO. No matter what it is, it probably DOESN’T MATTER. Always ask your star player, will this matter tomorrow? Will this matter in a year? Will this matter in 5 years? Will I loose sleep over this? If you answered yes to any of the above, then solve the problem and keep it MOVING, you can’t stress what doesn’t matter because you are giving silly things too much energy and attention….just live your life!!!
8. Be solution based: this is for the women in the audience. Some women are often complaint based; we like to talk about the problem for the purpose of venting. But after we have vented, we show little care in exactly how we are to solve the problem, and wait to enter with our rebuttal for why nothing will work except complaining (*** not all women are this way***). It is important that in acknowledgement of a problem, we do not REACT, but instead we PROACT. How do you positively solve this problem, with haste? Once the problem is solved, don’t dwell, get back to living, NOTHING MATTERS!
9. Be Brave: When you can count on nothing else, you can count on yourself. So with no one to call for help, sometimes you just need to man/woman up, and deal with it head on. Being brave is like an epidemic; it will inspire you to continue to be brave and will inspire those around you to conquer their own demons. There is a certain satisfaction that only comes from being your own hero.
10. Have Faith: If you do nothing else in times of uncertainty (which was all of lent for me), have faith that everything will be okay, and everything happens for a reason. Its okay not to know what’s going to happen next, sometimes its better that way, just brace yourself and have faith in his plan.
Love, Peace, and Poetry
Ms. Flow
The traditional purpose of Lent is the preparation of the believer — through prayer, penitence, almsgiving and self-denial — for the annual commemoration during Holy Week of the Death and Resurrection of Jesus, which recalls the events linked to the Passion of Christ and culminates in Easter, the celebration of the Resurrection of Jesus Christ.
Conventionally it is described as being forty days long, though different denominations calculate the forty days differently. The forty days represent the time that, according to the Bible, Jesus spent in the wilderness.
Well, at the end of everything, i believe there should be a lesson learned, and in my case, there where 10 lessons i learned. I am choosing to share this with everyone b/c i have truly been affected by this time of self-denial and i figured why not. lol.
1. Cherish each moment: Every second is a chance to change and every moment is one lost or gained. So make the most of every moment!!! No matter the circumstances.
2. Stop running to the next thing in fear that you will miss something: The thing about having a phone/texting is that you are always planning for the next event. So much so, that you are nearly running from one event to the next. How can you possibly enjoy one thing when you are so ready to get to the next thing? Take your time and refer to number 1.
3. Plan ahead: Your mother told you a million times but I’m going to tell you once more. If you have never planned ahead, wait until the day your phone dies and you wished you had. Instead of saying “im going to just call you”, and then you end up wasting time lingering around until you get/make the call that determines your next move, just say “We will meet here at 7:30pm, and if plans change, then call me”. Always think two steps ahead. It will save you heart ache.
4. Be resourceful and never give up: In this past 40 days I have been lost more times than I would like to think necessary. But because I new I had no other choice then to figure it out, I simply did. So when things go wrong as they often will, rest if you must but don’t you quit.
5. Enjoy yourself: In the words of Katt Williams, you need to get in tuned with your star player. Spend at least an hour or two alone everyday. What you do with that hour is up to you, but make sure it involves reflection. Think about what you did that day, who you spoke to, who you affected, what experiences you had, where you went wrong, what could you have done better, and what were your accomplishments? These are important questions to ask your star player everyday! If you don’t know you, then no one else can ever know you.
6. Let people in your life know they matter: No matter what occurs in life, nothing is certain but death and taxes. So be sure the people in your life know they matter and that you love them. You never know the next time you will see them, and you never know how your words/actions will affect them. P.S. show affection whenever it strikes you, I know I am not a naturally affectionate person, but if you need a hug or feel like giving one, do so, because actions will always speak volumes over any words.
7. NOTHING MATTERS: Its easy to be bitter, and just discount people for a variety of things. But it is much easier to not carry that load on your heart and just LET IT GO. No matter what it is, it probably DOESN’T MATTER. Always ask your star player, will this matter tomorrow? Will this matter in a year? Will this matter in 5 years? Will I loose sleep over this? If you answered yes to any of the above, then solve the problem and keep it MOVING, you can’t stress what doesn’t matter because you are giving silly things too much energy and attention….just live your life!!!
8. Be solution based: this is for the women in the audience. Some women are often complaint based; we like to talk about the problem for the purpose of venting. But after we have vented, we show little care in exactly how we are to solve the problem, and wait to enter with our rebuttal for why nothing will work except complaining (*** not all women are this way***). It is important that in acknowledgement of a problem, we do not REACT, but instead we PROACT. How do you positively solve this problem, with haste? Once the problem is solved, don’t dwell, get back to living, NOTHING MATTERS!
9. Be Brave: When you can count on nothing else, you can count on yourself. So with no one to call for help, sometimes you just need to man/woman up, and deal with it head on. Being brave is like an epidemic; it will inspire you to continue to be brave and will inspire those around you to conquer their own demons. There is a certain satisfaction that only comes from being your own hero.
10. Have Faith: If you do nothing else in times of uncertainty (which was all of lent for me), have faith that everything will be okay, and everything happens for a reason. Its okay not to know what’s going to happen next, sometimes its better that way, just brace yourself and have faith in his plan.
Love, Peace, and Poetry
Ms. Flow
Sunday, April 5, 2009
Hmmm
So it has been 33 days since i have given up my cell phone, 7 days shy of the end of lent. Like every great story, it is as you near the end that you begin to look back to the beginning. I originally gave up my cell phone for 2 reasons,
1 - i needed an escape that in essence permitted me to not really go anywhere, i needed to be free but without actually running free. I figured involved students who care about their grades do not have such luxuries as simply disappearing whenever it is convenient for them.
2 - Something in me told me that i needed to give up a luxury to understand some sort of lesson. It was with little hesitation that i came to the conclusion that my cell phone had to go. I simply did, i was impulsed to do.
Now that i near the end... I must ask what is it that i have learned...
I think above all, i have learned to love - Friends +Family alike
I have learned to be strong and to do what feels right when it feels right.
so here is my advise to you...
Dear Reader,
Live for the moment, do not fret over the next thing to come, and never regret. Every situation has a lesson, and you must always learn something from every aspect of your life. So if you new you messed up, say Sorry. If you feel some kind of way about someone, express it!! By no means do i ask that you crash your car into the driver who cut you off in the road, but i do mean that you hug your friends whenever it so strikes you and you kiss the one who makes you makes you smile more than any other. Do not let anything hold you back from doing what feels right.
Sincerely,
Ms.Flow
P.S. On April 12th, i will post my 10 lessons for Lent 2009. I do not speak gospel by any means but i do feel the need to share my hard learned lessons during this time of sacrifice.
Love, Peace, and Poetry.....
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